Goodbyes

[SBlack]

Hello all,

I hate it when people just fall of the face of the earth never to be heard from again so this is my final goodbye.

I really do love the direction the server has gone. Elle and Mac have done wonderful jobs in that regard. A number of years ago there was no way in heck I'd ever let a 13-14 year old play here and now I feel very confident in the administration and staff that they would be shielded from bullying and other lets say other behaviors.

So for me at least. This is a somewhat sad goodbye. This was a creative outlet for me and I'll miss a good number of people who were my casual gamer friends. Like a number of us I have an mmorpg addiction and that affects my personal life to some degree. Starting here a few years back though all the ooc personal conflict starting me down a path of alcoholism. On another server it got worse as I was drinking for creative reasons and having conflict with multiple parties and I'm going down that path again. Last evening I was likely breathing a .27 and I'm not exaggerating. Too much Booze+MMORPG = Me going way heck off the reservation batstuff crazy. Bottom line I suppose this game is not healthy for me. . And it really does bother me I can't seem to be the person I want to be here.

My wife has actually hinted at me quitting for some time. While my personal life is affected, it's not like I'm neglecting my daughter nor my wife at THIS point YET. Frankly though, as a family, I should be spending my time in another direction. That is why my wife stopped playing nwn and she doesn't miss it at all. Her words.

So with a somber sadness mixed in with a healthy relief I bid my farewells. I'll miss a lot of you.

Sblack.

[chad878262]

Sorry to hear that SBlack. I realize you and I haven't always been on the same page, but believe it or not I agreed with the vast majority of your posts and I think our ideas were more similar than different. I am and always have been a family first guy so glad to see you making the decision before things become an issue. I'm sure you will find another outlet that is perhaps a bit healthier for you. In any case, it's always important to have your priorities in order and you certainly do in this case. Best of luck in whatever you do, wherever you go.

[Empoweredfan]

Staying ahead of the curve is a good thing, and realizing it by yourself goes to show that it isn't too late. It is sad to see people go, but actually reassuring when it is done for the best of the one leaving. The best of luck to you in the future, and though people here will miss you, we don't need to do so with a hevy heart.

Thank you and farewell. =)

[Lockonnow]

well you and you wife can allways talk about how lovely it was in the forgotten realms how a nice it was and then heal the woudners and never forgot how thing was rememebr it is magic

[Glowfire]

Sorry to hear about it but in the end, I'm glad you're doing what is best for you and your family.

[Maecius]

All the best to you in your future endeavors. It sounds like you're leaving one adventure for another: And the adventure of leading life and having a family, I'm told, is the greatest adventure of them all!

I'm glad you saw that the game wasn't healthy for you, and that you have decided to pull yourself away from it before it caused you and yours too much hardship.

[The Whistler]

Your pretty daughter needs her daddy. Maybe we'll still be around when she turns 18, who knows.

[trogers2]

Good luck Sblack, I think you are doing the right thing and have nothing but admiration for you as many can get very lost in that world, yet you finding the strength to push forward is very inspiring to say the least.

I really do hope things work out for you, and hope maybe one day in the future you can come back with a fresh mindset.

[aaron22]

i want to give you kudos on your perspective. fair winds and safe travels.

[DeepFriedMoose]

It takes a tremendous amount of wisdom and self-awareness to do what you're doing, man.
I had to make a similar choice when my son was born -- my wife and my son needed me a lot more than I needed NWN. Now that he's older, I'm able to play again, on a reduced schedule, but I'll take it. I'm with you in spirit, bud. Go be an awesome dad and husband.

[Vermilion]

Echoing Moose's points- my little girl is old enough for me to play games now at times, but I did have to stop at the time. You're doing the best possible thing, RL should always win.

Your self-awareness is a great thing, hope all goes great for you and your family.

[Rask]

You are not the first person to quit for reasons like this, and you will undoubtedly not be the last.

You can be certain you ARE making the right choice. The family you have and people you have outside of this place are and should always be the 100% priority.

I wish you well !

[Marathados]

Yet another goodbye thread...

I am sad to see you go. But from your reasoning it seems the right step to take.

Best of luck with your family and your future endeavors!

[SBlack]

Thanks for the well wishes .

Remember this is all one big gaming room where everyone sits down a few tables to enjoy each others company. All relationships are give and take or they quickly dissolve. This is just a game and hobby, person to person relationships are far more important. Try and treat everyone OOC as you would as like they were sitting across the table from you and your family was watching . There is no justification to treat another individual poorly or worse (*cringes*) over a hobby no matter how one attempts to rationalize it to themselves or dislikes another. Be a friendly neighbor, considerate and cooperative (*give and take needed*) .

Enjoy all. Truly best wishes.

Sirius Black

[SBlack]

I did some re-evaluating about why I ended up in the situation I did on 'Black Friday' ( shamelessly makes fun of himself ) . and reprioritized. I am relatively certain I can make it work without falling back into old habbits . It's best to face problems head on when able .

I originally posted this publically as a 'public awareness issue' as some may have guessed . There is no shame in having anxiety , depression, or even falling into substance abuse.