Oh, one thing I thought of. Its difficult to RP a character who is cunning and should have better memory than a goldfish when you as a player don't
I tend to send a person a tell if I think my character has met them before. And names, darn all those with similar names..!

So far I keep post its by the laptop but they are slowly taking over the desk burying it...
My RP experiences,
People I've met who are into table top RPG have started young. I was about 17 when I joined my group, and I was the youngest and often the only female. The guys had played most things out there and had a taste for what they liked and didn't. They were more into trying new things all the time and also making their own games. Two have released their own, which I've had the 'honour' of playtesting. I never learned any system this way. And also never got to play a character more than once or twice. Record must be 5 sessions. Only played D&D twice and it looked more like a strategy game with that board than RP to me. All that number crunching and the fights which took aaaages left little room to RP in my opinion.
Player "What does this spell do?"
Everyone scratches their heads at the description and someone makes a suggestion everyone nods to.
Halfway through someone "um guys, I don't think that's what this spell is about. Seems to me it should be blablabla"
DM looks and swears, "We could discuss this all evening or we continue to play. Let's just say this spell does X damage for the bloody sake of it."
At the end the DM goes.. "and this is why we don't play D&D. Can you stop pestering me about it now?!"
What I liked about the group was that they RPed with common sense. If we were in farming village, and someone needed a ladder, if it seems logical that a ladder should be there, we would find it. For more odd things, if it seems reasonable but rare, we'd roll. If it wasn't quite successful roll, the DM would often implement it as it being broken or under heavy lock/guard. So, area descriptions were never limited to what it said on the paper. The DM rather preferred to give a short description and have us players fill in the rest "I do enough work as it is"

. I'm a bit nostalgic I suppose. I've moved countries and even before that, someone else moved abroad, people got kids and were focused on work. And girlfriends. Don't even get me started on them. One of the older guys about 40, had a partner who also played which was great. Other than that I only met other females when it was flower picking RP. Seems like females tend to be very biased against table top RP.
I think I'm waffling quite a lot so feel free to split.
What I was thinking about was that people shouldn't be so restricted by what is described/what they can see IG and props. If its reasonable it should be there, it is, so RP and use it 
If you insist there must be a real IG item, do use the naming tool.