Nathan's Journal
Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2017 1:03 am
Nathan recently started keeping a journal, hoping that it would help him to better remember important things, and reflect on events in his life. He does not entirely understand WHY someone who remembers things as well as he does should keep a journal, but he does not understand a LOT of things, so he did it anyway at the suggestion of a few of his friends because maybe it will help him be less terrible with people. What could possibly go wrong?
The small tome is lightly worn from having been kept in his bag during his adventures. At the moment, only the first page has any writing. If the journal was read, it would be a mixture of very clinical writing and shorthand, almost like someone taking notes more than pouring out their feelings in their writing.
[parchment]How to properly compliment a woman, as taught to me bymiss Beladra:
- Say things that you find striking or attractive.
- Be extremely vague. Being too specific takes away from the compliment.
Bad Compliments:
You remind me of Sune,but not as beautiful.
- Leave out this part.
You have a body.
-Too Vague - appear to be avoiding saying an obvious negative rather than stating an obvious positive.)
Your eyes are green and proportioned in a manner thatdoes not ruin your face.
- This is too specific. The crossed out part could be insulting. Compliments should not be made specific enough to be turned into concrete factual information.
- Find something you find worth complimenting in anyone, even in someone who has a lot of features that might be considered ugly.
To help illustrate this to me, Beladra painted her face like a zombie mostly, except her eyes, and asked for a compliment. Tried the following, noted results:
You look like you are not entirely dead.
- Was told this was a good start. Will continue - suggested complimenting clothing or body or other features if nothing about face stands out.
You have a body.
- See above section on bad compliments.
You have a body that is mostly intact despite your face.
- Beladra says this is the best compliment she has ever been given, but I do not believe her.and you still have most of it - Like 83% at least. .
This is hard.
Addendum:
Beladra said the best way to learn more is to go out and practice, so we visited the East Gate district and I complimented people we ran into. I have learned the following:
- If you like someone's long hair, do not refer to them as "hairy". If you do, when you try to clarify you were referring to their long mane, do not say they are "like a horse".
-Women do not like to be referred to as "sturdy" or "broad" when their bodies are being complimented. It is more pleasing to tell them they are "soft" or "pretty" or "slender" The knight woman I said this to to correct my initial "sturdy like an oak" compliment was offended at being told she was soft. Maybe just don't compliment bodies at all.[/parchment]
The small tome is lightly worn from having been kept in his bag during his adventures. At the moment, only the first page has any writing. If the journal was read, it would be a mixture of very clinical writing and shorthand, almost like someone taking notes more than pouring out their feelings in their writing.
[parchment]How to properly compliment a woman, as taught to me by
- Say things that you find striking or attractive.
- Be extremely vague. Being too specific takes away from the compliment.
Bad Compliments:
You remind me of Sune,
- Leave out this part.
-Too Vague - appear to be avoiding saying an obvious negative rather than stating an obvious positive.)
Your eyes are green and proportioned in a manner that
- This is too specific. The crossed out part could be insulting. Compliments should not be made specific enough to be turned into concrete factual information.
- Find something you find worth complimenting in anyone, even in someone who has a lot of features that might be considered ugly.
To help illustrate this to me, Beladra painted her face like a zombie mostly, except her eyes, and asked for a compliment. Tried the following, noted results:
You look like you are not entirely dead.
- Was told this was a good start. Will continue - suggested complimenting clothing or body or other features if nothing about face stands out.
- See above section on bad compliments.
You have a body that is mostly intact despite your face.
- Beladra says this is the best compliment she has ever been given, but I do not believe her.
NEVER say "despite your face" in a compliment ever.
You are not falling apart at all yet.
-This amendment was made to clarify the previous compliment. Too much laughter for proper feedback, compliment likely unusable.
Your skin is pale and smooth - This is a proper compliment
-Leave out this part. It is gross.
Beladra says that "You have beautiful eyes." is what I should have said.Properly vague and noncommital. Allows the person to interpret it how they want, usually ending up better than anything you could have said. Apply similar logic to future compliments.
This is hard.
Addendum:
Beladra said the best way to learn more is to go out and practice, so we visited the East Gate district and I complimented people we ran into. I have learned the following:
- If you like someone's long hair, do not refer to them as "hairy". If you do, when you try to clarify you were referring to their long mane, do not say they are "like a horse".
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