Moving on.

[Galdinao]

Based on some of your attitudes that I observed with other players, taking a break seems like a wise decision for your health. Take care and good luck.

[Vagrant]

Supreme pleasure to chat with or RP with. Good journeys and I look forward to seeing you again someday.

[Kiran]

You were the 2nd best squire an old man could ask for.

[Xorena]

Hey YYJ,

There's a lot I could say but I'll keep it short. I wish you well in the future. Take care of yourself.

[athornforyourheart]

Maybe this post should've made sooner but here it is. Better late than never.

Neverwinter nights game has been unisntalled from my PC for a few days now so do not expect to see me around anytime soon.

First I would like to apologize to all the people that was roleplaying with me and I am sad that the stories we had together will not continue for the time being. I cannot say if I am ever going to dedicate more time here in the future because there's a lot of people that I love and care for and I will be sad that we won't be playing again soon though I will try to keep an eye on my discord DMs for anyone who wants to say hello to me.

I don't know if my influence on this community was good, bad or mixed. I am certainly not without issues and I have been dealing with a crippling mental disorder for years that many people probably noticed and most were sensitive enough to not mention it to me.

One reason for leaving is due to a videogame addiction, and when someone life, work and personal relations deteriorate because of a videogame then things need to change for good and for the better of my health and person.

Another reason for leaving is escapism, I found myself thinking about BGTSCC during the day and often times to avoid thinking about other things that were more important than fantasy land and this goes hand in hand with the addiction.

I will mention the community here and yes will talk about toxicity of course, someone asked me about it and I was afraid of talking about it back then, but now I feel that it needs to be said.
Yes, I have made many toxic comments before and had many outrageous hot takes about things. Looking back at it, I haven't changed my opinion about most things, some would say that I was just being honest and others will say that I am an BEEP (forum wont let me type what I wanted to say). Such is life, you can't be liked by everyone. I don't have many regrets but many times I was quick to type before even analyzing the situation first, apologies to anyone who may been offended ever, on the other hand there are many things that I won't miss, mainly selfish attitudes, bullies, elite roleplayers and trolls, people that only look after their own fun at the detriment of others that are just looking to tell their own story and walk on top of othee people.
On the other hand...
I met so many people here that I have a deep respect and admiration for, either as roleplayers, human beings, gamers or all of them. I think the majority of this community are amazing people, I would like to name a few but I don't want to miss anyone, but you know who you are.


I feel that I may probably play again at some point, I hope that this server lasts for many more years and it probably will because staff pours their heart and souls on the server to make sure it's always fresh and interesting.

I am typing from my phone as I am on vacation right now enjoying some quality time with my family and this probably has a lot of typos.

Finally, I leave some suggestions on how to make this community better.

1. Get some discord moderators, seriously one person cannot do everything.
2. Get community managerst, whose job is to BAN and make sure that rules are followed (DMs should only tell stories)
3. Players, please please help out newbs, and please do not be rude to people whose english is 2nd language.
4. Stop using voice chat while roleplaying, it sucks.
Edit: 5. Stop worrying about items, instead just ask the DMs "we were supposed to lose that fight or why was the monster so OP?"... (This is half joke, half serious, but honestly, just go grind, and if you don't grind, why you feel you need epix items for?)

With all that said, see you later BG.

Not sure if you still browse the forums (see you are still a forum helper, so assuming you might log in at some point to read this) but sorry for never leaving a goodbye on this thread. I know you and I have talked a few times about this but its always good to move on when you no longer are having fun with the game.

I know a few times in the recent months you made a post of leaving but BG has a tendency for some reason to always pull people back in. I think it's smart to delete the entire game off your HDD, as you did, so it helps you kinda break away. I know the last few weeks have been drama ridden for you but that's why I suppose I always try and preach for people to remember this is just a video game.

I hope players can take your goodbye message here and apply it to themselves if the moment ever arrives where they too feel overwhelmed - to take a step back or a break and re calibrate (or in your case, move on as you have.) Video game addiction is very much real and I agree that this can become of escapism for some people. Either way, I wish you the best YYJ in the future and what it holds for you.

You'll be missed on BG. Enjoy the time away!

-athorn

[yyj]

Just to give a small update, I have been poking my head again from time to time, just because I get this itch to roleplay, but still I am not planning to return and dedicate as much time to the server as I used to. Feel free to reach to me on discord for rp sessions, and thanks everyone for your kind words, I love you all.

[Lockonnow]

well you know you could RCR you chars' now and then lieaving them after and come back whan you are ready to return

[yyj]

I wanted to update this thread again, due to mental health reasons I need to step away for a few days or weeks I don't know for how long.

It is that I ask everyone who reads this post.

Please read the server rules and make sure to understand that they exist to protect the fun of the players.

I will be back later just pause everything I been on and remember to have fun, but never at the cost of other players.

[Tsidkenu]

One reason for leaving is due to a videogame addiction, and when someone life, work and personal relations deteriorate because of a videogame then things need to change for good and for the better of my health and person.

I can personally relate to this and it is the reason I no longer play (even if I have poked my head back into this forum sparingly).

It takes firm determination to break an addiction of this kind, but it is absolutely possible. You just have to be careful regarding what you replace it with... we are all addicted to something. We just need to make that "something" a healthy and constructive habit, especially for others around us who need us the most.

[Azroth]

I can personally relate to this and it is the reason I no longer play (even if I have poked my head back into this forum sparingly).

It takes firm determination to break an addiction of this kind, but it is absolutely possible. You just have to be careful regarding what you replace it with... we are all addicted to something. We just need to make that "something" a healthy and constructive habit, especially for others around us who need us the most.

There's other ways to channel addictions to get a fix, yes. Some crave a pick me up, others crave sedation, others just need a distraction from the day by day.

Adrenaline junkies who may do things for the thrill (such as robberies, street fights and such) or even amphetamine abuse, may find it more constructive to take up boxing or even lift weights (I would know). The affects are just on a different scale.

people of the other spectrum might find that rather than boozing and other sedatives, they may find other outlets like Yoga and such better also.

The issues with unhealthy addictions are that they will compromise your moral compass, turning you into a monster. Yeah... that guy you just socked in the face for smoking the last of your rock? That's not at all a problem! (Sarcasm intended)

[yyj]

I would just like to clarify that I have already dealt with this addiction in the past.

The reasons for my departure has been reported to the appropiate parties and I hope in the future it prevents them from doing more damage.

[Sons of Second Dawn]

You were one of the pillars of our Company and you will be missed.

But we fully support you taking your life in hand and seeing it turn for the better. I hope you keep in touch and enjoy the next page in your IRL story. May it be a mighty one!