Tekill wrote: ↑Sun Nov 14, 2021 1:03 am
Drow started off as a monster race, so....shouldnt it just be a part of them?
 
The issue I see here is the mix of OOC vs IC information.  As the D&D editions progressed, and as the years went by and more and more people contributed to the expansion of the game world (Forgotten Realms), OOC expansion far outpaced what I would call IC expansion.  
What I mean is this:  going from 1e Monster Manual (1977) first mention of the Drow, to 1e Fiend Folio (1981) where OOC statistics are fleshed out, to 2e The Drow of the Underdark (1991) where it is written in a IC voice while expounding on OOC stats—a fascinating blend—to the 3e Forgotten Realms Campaign Setting where Drow are now a playable race...even as we learn more about the Drow via the Source Books given to us to consume, the 
attitude of the Drow, both harbored themselves and more importantly harbored against them, remains nearly the same: a monster race.
2e source books mention:
Some few (perhaps 15% of all) drow are deemed “good” (actually, most are better described as Lawful or Chaotic neutral in alignment) by other races. They look to the surface, and worship Eilistraee, turning their backs on the darkness their brethren have embraced.
It is not easy for a drow with a peaceful disposition, or feelings toward what most surface dwellers deem “good,” to develop a strong personal morality or even survive for long in the cruel, twisted societies of the drow cities.
Thus, it is absolutely the Drow Society to blame for the Evil that is ascribed to them.  However, the 2e source goes on:
Only truly outstanding individuals (Drizzt Do’Urden, for example) manage to win free of drow lifestyle. They are the heroes—and, usually, the wandering adventurer-outcasts—of the race.
No “good” drow is yet known to have succeeded in turning the bent of a drow city toward good. Altering the smallest of customs and (dis)courtesies is impossi¬ ble without the approval and support of Lolth, who dominates most such societies. City dwellers are ruled by fear, deceit, and cruelty; it is impossible for them to act other than as the “dark villains” surface Realmslore makes them out to be, as long as they remain in the cities of the Underdark. Drow who leave cities are dismissed and ignored—except by drow merchants, who are glad to have drow surface contacts.
Drow who dwell in small roving bands, however, or who reach the surface and manage to establish an existence there, can and have adapted to local mores and conditions—and exhibit natures no more good or evil than the general run of humankind.
Snowflake of snowflakes, really.  Yes, in principle, taking a Drow baby from its cradle and raising it in a temple of Eldath, will exactly have the greater effect on that personality.
BUT!!!  When considering Drow in the Realms, so much depends on 
how the Drow are interpreted by other Races.  The opinion, held steadfast by so many other Races, would exactly be that yes, Drow babies ARE born evil.  Because 99.9999% of the time, any interaction with Drow is one of violence, or death, or violence from death, or deathly violence.  
In RL terms, we use racist, or racism.  But what we're really talking about is prejudice.  As we on Earth are all of the same race.  Human.  In the Forgotten Realms, there are ACTUALLY truly different races, and so, imho, it's good practice to imagine our RL prejudice multiplied to the X degree, in terms of...well, all those negative things we associate with prejudice.  
I'll just say I totally understand that for many players, even RPing prejudice/racist ways is totally uncomfortable.  And beyond that, for the sake of "a good time playing a game," to do whatever needs to be done to NOT get negative.  And I appreciate that.
So I would say, in the, Drow babies are born evil...depending on the context of OOC or IC position/thought.